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In the past few years it could be observed in the press, that mature men are involved with considerably younger women. Here are a few examples of celebrity couples: |
Brad Pitt (40) and Angelina Jolie (29)
Paul William Scott Anderson (40) and Milla Jovovich (29)
Rod Stewart (58) and Penny Lancaster (31)
Flavio Briatore (56) and Elisabetta Gregoraci (26)
Woody Allen (64) and Soon-Yi Previn (29)
All these couples have one thing in common: HE is above 40 and SHE is under 30 years.
How can this be ?
Dr. phil., Dipl.- Psych. A. Meinhauser comments: " With these couples a psychologist tries to find out, what makes the younger, and even more the older, so attractive, when they first meet. Often, younger women seek security in a mature partner. A mature man is attracted by the youthfulness, the vitality and the beauty of a younger women."
What are the prospects for success for such couples ? "As in any other relationship, differences regarding the other person should not be fought but rather be considered as another possibilty for existence. Also, the approach of sexuality is a very important factor in each relationship. The Institute for Sexual Research in Hamburg /Germany compared four different agegroups (men and women) regarding their approach to 13 different arrays of sexuality. The result proved that approaches are basically independent from age. This indication shows that difference in age does not have any negative effect on sexual harmony. Approaches of sexuality are developed early and hardly change later in life. Above all, it can be noticed
that younger women do favour a more mature and thus experienced sex partner."
Another survey carried out by HMAG Institutes revealed the following statistics concerning the desired age of marriage.
Percentage of women wishing a partner 10 years or more older
- women up to 26 years: 49 %
- women up to 35 years: 32 %
- women above 35 years: 18 %
Result: approximately 50% of all women up to 26 years of age desire an older partner for marriage, while this wish considerably decreases with women up to 35 years of age.
Even though there is a noticable trend nowadays the issue „mature gentleman – young lady" is by no means new. Goethe was 74 years old when he proposed marriage to nineteen-year-old Ulrike von Levetzow. Julius Caesar was already 45 years old when he fell in love with twenty-year-old Egyptian queen Cleopatra.
Of course big differences in age are burdened by stereotypes: He is looking for a lolita, who helps him forget his mid-life-crisis – she is money-hungry and suffers from a „father´s complex". While it is easy to understand what the older part gains from a relationship with a younger partner, many can only asume financial motives for the younger part. Surveys with such couples from the regular population brought rather unspectacular results:
Younger women seek security, experience and stability in mature partners. Mature men often have more intuition and are more tolerant and even-tempered compared to men of the same age as the woman. They often are patient and interested fathers to their mutual children.
The mature man is looking for spontaneity and naturalness, which pull him out of his established routine. Experience and impulsiveness often complement each other in an ideal way. Sometimes another reason is to start a family with children again. According to many media reports the reason first mentioned is the desire for an attractive young female body to inflame erotic life once more, which mostly plays a major role in the early stages of a relationship. After a few months this motive takes second place behind other incentives.
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